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Kink Etiquette: Collars, conversation and correct cordiality in kink

Kink Etiquette: Collars, conversation and correct cordiality in kink

  • by Race Bannon
  • Oct 9, 2019

Being polite and having good manners will get you a long way in life. The same goes for kink. All manner of sexual outlaw creature might be great erotic fantasy, but even the most full-throttle players need to abide by standards of basic human decency.

10 Tips for Folsom newbies - Navigating the sexy street fair for optimum fun

10 Tips for Folsom newbies - Navigating the sexy street fair for optimum fun

  • by Race Bannon
  • Sep 25, 2019

Folsom Street Fair is just days away. Among the crowd will be throngs of people who have traversed past Fairs multiple times. For them, it's an annual gathering for which they already know the ins and outs.

Leather Events, August 23 — September 8, 2019

Leather Events, August 23 — September 8, 2019

  • by Race Bannon
  • Aug 20, 2019

Even after the Mr. SF Leather contest, there are plenty more events for leather and other kinksters.

Here we go again: Mr. SF Leather 2020 contest crowns kinksters

Here we go again: Mr. SF Leather 2020 contest crowns kinksters

  • by Race Bannon
  • Aug 20, 2019

The Mr. San Francisco Leather and San Francisco Bootblack 2020 contest took place this past weekend. You might be thinking "Didn't we just have this contest in March?" You would be correct. That was for the 2019 titleholders.

Leather: Collective Compersion - Expanding our erotic lexicon

Leather: Collective Compersion - Expanding our erotic lexicon

  • by Race Bannon
  • Aug 7, 2019

It seems that every day the word compersion makes its way further into daily discourse. While its usage is by no means pervasively common, at least not yet, I've noticed it being uttered verbally or in print much more often lately.

Leather Events, August 8-23, 2019

Leather Events, August 8-23, 2019

  • by Race Bannon
  • Aug 7, 2019

Even after our local street fair, Up Your Alley, there are still many kink and leather events to enjoy in the San Francisco Bay Area.

Leather Events, July 25 — August 10, 2019

Leather Events, July 25 — August 10, 2019

  • by Race Bannon
  • Jul 24, 2019

Welcome to the second-busiest leather-kink weekend in the Bay Area, where there's always a lot going on for leather and other kinksters.

Pride is about being authentic:  Leather contingent kinks up the annual march

Pride is about being authentic: Leather contingent kinks up the annual march

  • by Race Bannon
  • Jul 2, 2019

LGBTQ people from all walks of life, including us kinksters, walked down Market Street at Sf Pride — joyful, proud and determined to continue to stake our claim to a happy and equal life.

Leather Events, July 5-21, 2019

Leather Events, July 5-21, 2019

  • by Race Bannon
  • Jul 2, 2019

Even after Pride month, there's always a lot going on in the San Francisco Bay Area for leather and other kinksters.

Shared fantasies: Justin Lehmiller on the science of sexual desire

Shared fantasies: Justin Lehmiller on the science of sexual desire

  • by Race Bannon
  • Jun 19, 2019

In this column, I'll share some insights from Justin Lehmiller, an esteemed Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book 'Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire.'

Off to the market we go: International Mr. Leather explored

Off to the market we go: International Mr. Leather explored

  • by Race Bannon
  • Jun 5, 2019

Every year for decades men have descended on Chicago over the Memorial Day weekend for an annual leather pilgrimage otherwise known as International Mr. Leather (IML), as did I this past week.

Celebrating women - International Ms. Leather and Bootblack in San Jose

Celebrating women - International Ms. Leather and Bootblack in San Jose

  • by Race Bannon
  • Apr 24, 2019

Over the course of my tenure writing this column, I've received feedback that readers often prefer something other than pure reporting on events. As one gentle critic put it, "I prefer you don't just reword an event's program," and they have a point.

What about the sex? - Combining social and sexual scenes

What about the sex? - Combining social and sexual scenes

  • by Race Bannon
  • Apr 10, 2019

Recently, a young gay man messaged me, stating, "I've tried the leather scene. It's not for me." I asked why. He said, "It's not about sex anymore. It's not even about anything erotic anymore." Was he correct?

Bestie Sexys - Ongoing and missed erotic outlets

Bestie Sexys - Ongoing and missed erotic outlets

  • by Cornelius Washington
  • Apr 3, 2019

Our Bestie winner in Sex celebrate businesses that help you embrace your desires. We want you to embrace, engage with and utilize them while you still can.